“Guidance for Parents: Nurturing Troubled Teens with Hope and Compassion”
In today’s challenging world, Nicole Parker, MA, LPC-Associate, Supervised by: Kerry Williamson, MA, LPC-S, LMFT-S, CST, offers support to parents whose hearts ache for their hurting teens. Drawing on years of experience working with teens and their families, Nicole provides gentle guidance and encouragement. Additionally, gain insights from parents who have walked a similar path.
Imagine driving home, the radio softly playing in the background, when you receive a distressing phone call from your spouse. Your heart sinks as they reveal that your son is intentionally harming himself. Overwhelmed and filled with questions, you wonder how this happened and how to help.
If this situation resonates with you, know that you are not alone. Countless teens face a wide range of challenges such as depression, anxiety, self-harm, suicidal ideation, and more. As a parent, witnessing your child’s pain is heartbreaking, and you may feel uncertain about how to support them. Remember that many parents have shared your emotions. This article will explore ways to come alongside your hurting teen on their healing journey.
Discover three ways to support and encourage your teen while prioritizing self-care:
1. Establishing a Supportive Connection:
Approach conversations with curiosity and empathy rather than fear or anger. Regulate your own emotions beforehand by seeking support from loved ones. When speaking with your teen, ask what they need from you in that moment—whether it’s a listening ear or gentle guidance. Avoid overwhelming them with advice and refrain from blaming yourself. Grant yourself the same compassion you extend to your teen.
2. Embracing a Supportive Role:
Recognize that you cannot “fix” what your teen is going through. Focus on being a source of support, offering love and acceptance unconditionally. Encourage open communication, active listening, and non-judgmental discussions. Seek professional therapy for your teen when necessary.
3. Prioritizing Your Well-being:
Remember that your well-being is crucial as you navigate this challenging time. Take time to process your own emotions and seek support through prayer, conversations with trusted confidants, journaling, or even therapy. Practice self-compassion and acknowledge that parenting is an ongoing learning journey.
Seek comfort in the wisdom of parents who have endured similar struggles:
– Cultivate compassion for your hurting teen, recognizing that how you react to the circumstance matters.
– Demonstrate your love and acceptance unconditionally, even amid uncertainty.
– Let your teen feel safe, loved, and heard at home.
– Offer prayers for your teen and be willing to apologize when needed.
– Love your children unconditionally, mirroring the love of Jesus, and instilling hope in their hearts.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, remember that there is hope. Reach out for support, knowing that you’re not alone on this journey. Nicole and her team are here to help you and your teen through this difficult time. To inquire about counseling sessions, please contact our office.
Nicole specializes in treating couples with relationship concerns, as well as adults and teenagers facing anxiety, trauma, abuse, self-harm, self-esteem, depression, and grief. Through a blend of therapeutic approaches, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Brainspotting Therapy, and expressive forms such as art therapy and outdoor sessions, Nicole tailors treatment to meet each individual’s unique needs.
For further reading, explore the following resources:
– “Inside a Cutter’s Mind: Understanding and Helping Those Who Self-Injure” by Jerusha Clark and Earl R. Henslin
– “Understanding Gender Dysphoria: Navigating Transgender Issues in a Changing Culture” by Mark Yarhouse
